So I don’t know how to post this or even if it’s worth it, but I’m kind of desperate right now. This is my fiance and me. We met a year ago and are getting married in February of next year. And it’s been a crazy year.
In December, my fiance was diagnosed with a brain tumor. He’d been completely asymptomatic: no headaches, no real blurry vision, nothing to tell him he had a problem. We found out about it during a routine eye exam where the optometrist noticed his optic nerve looked a little squished and referred us to a neural ophthalmologist. More testing found that he had a tumor the size of a golf ball (5.5 cm x 3 cm x 5 cm) sitting right on his carotid artery, brain stem, and left optic nerve. Within a week of that first optometrist visit, my fiance was in surgery, on my birthday.
They were able to remove all but a couple cells, which were in a spot that attempting to remove them could cause even more damage. It took three months before he was finally able to go back to work and even then he still had between one and three doctor’s appointments per week.
But by June, we were getting back on track. We were planning for our wedding (he proposed in the hospital, the day after he got out of the ICU) and things were looking like they’d gotten better. All except for this strange fluid in his ear. The ENT he was seeing suggested that Neurosurgery do some MRIs to get a better look and check that everything was okay with the brain.
Neurosurgery sent us to Otolaryngology (fancy name for Ear Nose and Throat, but at the hospital level) who told us he had a probable Cerebro-Spinal Fluid leak. That fluid is what keeps your brain pressurized and actually in your skull instead of down your spine. In order to plug this leak, he would need a second invasive cranial surgery. And after waiting three weeks (fighting to get the hospital on track) we almost finally have a surgery date.
However, with him on medical leave from work and me as his primary caretaker, we only barely have enough for bills (the ones that don’t include food and gas or credit card payments). We’ve gotten lucky with the wedding and people donating services to help us out, but I don’t know quite how we’re going to make it until he can get back to work and off medical leave.
So this is me asking if anyone is willing to help. I know most of us don’t have two pennies to rub together but maybe just pass this along? I believe in the goodness of people and that things will work out, but right now we need some help to make that happen. If you’d like to help us, you can send a donation through PayPal to email@example.com. Even a little bit helps. And if you can’t donate, maybe just reblog. Thanks to all of you, just for taking the time to listen.